Breaking Up With the Internet (is hard to do)

Can You Remove Yourself From The Internet?

As the saying goes, "The Internet never forgets," but can you at least give it amnesia? For various reasons, some people want to become invisible on the Web. Is there a secret button to press, or a magical device to plug into your computer, to wipe every trace of you from the entire Internet?

Every so often, I hear someone boasting that they are "invisible" or "completely anonymous" on the Internet. And I chuckle. So I do a few Google searches and easily turn up their home address, phone number, employer, names of spouses and children, their hobbies, and even the make, model and color of their car. In one case, I found all that, plus a photo of a guy sitting on his front porch; he had claimed that there was no trace of him online. (Imagine his shock when I sent him that photo!)

There are some very good reasons for wanting to delete yourself from the Internet, or at least remove some portions of your online footprint. This Scientific American article tells the story of a young man who sent a video to a potential employer. That video was leaked online, went viral, and it became a huge source of embarrassment. I'm sure you can imagine other scenarios where something was shared online (with or without permission) and the person affected just wanted to disappear.

Ghyslain Raza was a shy 15-year-old when he recorded a video of himself imitating Darth Maul with a lightsaber. Classmates discovered the tape in the school's AV studio, and posted it online without Raza's knowledge or consent. Ghyslain Raza became the Star Wars Kid, he was mercilessly mocked, and it pretty much ruined his life for years.

I'm glad that my youthful indiscretions are not forever recorded online. I lost a scholarship in high school because of something stupid I did on the school computer. If that had been publicly accessible knowledge, I might have been denied entrance to my college of choice, or lost the opportunity for a job at IBM. Young people today think nothing of documenting every detail of their lives online, until one of those details comes back to bite them. MIT Technology Review's article Why An Internet That Never Forgets Is Especially Bad For Young People gives several examples.

Others just want to protect their privacy. The truth is, it’s practically impossible to erase every trace of yourself from the Internet. Just look at what you would have to do (and I’ve probably forgotten a few things).

Close all of your social media accounts. Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, Pinterest, Snapchat, Instagram, Flickr, WhatsApp, LinkedIn, Skype, Youtube, Tumblr, and who knows what else? Here's a list of almost 200 social media sites. Your zombie MySpace page may still be public. (And just for good measure, you might want to check this list of several dozen defunct social media sites.)

Just finding the “delete my account” button is a deliberately difficult process. Social networks (and especially paid membership sites) don’t want you to leave, and they are under no obligation to help you. Many have human or software “retention agents” who will argue with you (if you let them) rather than let you get to that “delete my account” button. But services like AccountKiller provide the necessary directions for deleting accounts on many social networks and websites.

Facebook gives you the option to permanently delete your account, but says that it may take up to 90 days from the beginning of the deletion process to delete all the things you've posted. Before doing so, you may want to download your Facebook data first. You also have the option to “deactivate” your account. This essentially means hiding (but not deleting) your profile and all your posts, pictures, videos, etc., where the general public can’t see them. A deactivated account can be reactivated if desired.

Breaking Up (with the Internet) Is Hard To Do

Likewise, you also have the option to delete your Google account. Just be aware that you may be using a variety of Google services (Gmail, Drive, Youtube, Calendar, Play Store, etc.) Take time to read the explanations on that page and choose carefully what you wish to delete. You may want to download emails, pictures, videos, documents, and other things from Google before deleting your account. There are some other considerations that I discuss in Here’s What Google Knows About You (and how you can delete it).

After the social networks come shopping sites (Amazon, eBay, Walmart, etc.), financial sites, auctions, dating, gaming, newspaper, job search sites, etc. You’ll need to delete blog posts you’ve written, comments you made in forums, letters to the editor, and so on.

Once your accounts are closed, you’ll need to find and eliminate traces of yourself online. Ironically, Google is your friend here, enabling you to find mentions of your name (and previous names), and even photos of yourself. Drop images of yourself into Google Image Search and see if you come up with any matches. It’s not facial recognition, but it’s the best we have.

But wait, there's more... Your phone number and home address are likely listed in dozens of online phone directories. Whitepages.com (which also operates Switchboard.com and 411.com) is one of the most popular, and they do offer a link to remove your listing. But there are many others. You'll have to hit every one of these online telephone directories to see if they also have "remove me" options.

A few sites that can help you ferret out your personal information online are Fast People Search and PeekYou. If you find traces of yourself online that you want removed, you will have to persuade the owners of the sites hosting those traces to cooperate. Most website owners will have little interest in finding and deleting your information, so that could prove to be a very slow, tedious process. Be polite and persistent. If that doesn’t work, call a lawyer.

It's not so hard to delete an email account. But what about all the emails you've sent? How likely are you to persuade all your contacts to rummage through their emails and delete anything from you? Likely, not likely.

Privacy Is History

The Internet Law Centre is in the United Kingdom, but the Internet has no borders. Solicitor Yair Cohen founded the firm to defend individuals’ rights on the Internet, and one of his services is helping people disappear from the Internet. Some of his clients include former p*rn stars who want to turn over a new career. Cases like that can involve the removal of “tens of thousands” of images and videos, one at a time.

Cohen says, “Some images can be removed on copyright grounds, some can be removed on privacy grounds, some could be removed on harassment. Some projects take eight months to a year. We have to be very stubborn.” So will you, if you want to completely erase yourself from the Internet? Do you have a year to devote to that project?

A few countries have enshrined the right to be forgotten into law, as a way for individuals to request that personal information, videos, or photographs be deleted from search engine databases. In practice, the effect is limited, though. Although the content is no longer discoverable by search engines, it remains online. And the removal requests are limited by jurisdiction.

Reputation management services such as Reputation Defender help individuals, job seekers, and businesses remove or suppress incorrect, embarrassing, malicious, or outdated search results. In most cases, they do this by pushing out new positive content to bury the bad. And it's expensive -- with costs ranging from USD $3,000 to $10,000.

Even if you could delete yourself from the public spaces on the Internet, you would still be in an unknown number of databases maintained by motor vehicle departments, insurers, police, the FBI, the NSA, credit reporting agencies, data brokers, hospitals and doctors, public libraries, newspapers, local government offices, political parties, charities, and so on.

And then there's the dark web, with vast troves of personal data being bought and sold. Most of this information (which may include your name, address, birth date, phone, email, passwords, social security number, driver's license and credit card data) is obtained from massive data breaches that happen with alarming frequency.

Bottom line, it's probably a fools's errand to try to scrub yourself from the Internet, even if you have the time and motivation. Have you tried to delete yourself from the online world? If so, are there any other tools you found helpful? Your thoughts on this topic are welcome. Post your comment or question below...